Wednesday, 24 July 2019

The Best Men I've Known

Even as I'm served by a young man leading a younger woman poorly, that is, by treating her with a simmering disdain, as her boss, because he himself is flustered, I'm reminded, ironically, as it would seem... of the best men I've known.
None of the best men I've known are well known or especially popular. None of them stand out. None of them have set the world ablaze with their brilliance. None of them have won the acclaim they've perhaps warranted. Which is a big part of why they're part of the group of the best men I've known.
These men are men in the genuine old-fashioned, eternal sense of the word. One of the most enduring messages in God's Word is there's nothing new under the sun. These men have integrity of anonymity about them, all of them.
There's nothing new about these men, just as there's nothing new about men who have potential but don't make this grade.
It's an upside-down economy I speak of, as the Spirit of God subverts the glory humanity would take for itself, especially in the Christian world.
The best men I've ever known have inspired me to become better.
They serve their wives and children.
Their actions speak louder than their words.
They are patient people for the most part,
having harnessed their anger.
They have a consistent moral compass.
They believe in chivalry,
but they also believe women can do anything.
They pour contempt on their pride.
They are constantly learning,
and are curious about wonder.
They respect women.
They apologise frequently.
They truly love God.
They have a humble sense of decorum in the way they go about their lives. They respect everyone, believing in and living out the power of self-diminution in order to raise the other person up in their presence.
For the best men I've ever known, it is their prerogative to ensure peace in all their relationships, and where this is not possible they're at peace with themselves knowing a heart of forgiveness travails for the broken relationship. They hold nothing back for love, knowing and applying no force in their relationships.
There is a reason why this article focuses on the best men I've ever known. I believe society needs more men that have a Christlikeness about them, and that there are still too many men, yes Christian men in some cases, who seem to have no desire to become like Christ.
If God gave you the picture of the best men you've known, why don't you make a covenant to thank these men in your life. I have.

Optimism and Thoughtlessness Are Not Synonyms

Ask people what optimism means and you will get a complete array of answers. From the 'glass half full' to 'seeing life through rose-tinted glasses,' or 'hopefulness about the future.' Optimism is one of those abstract and hard-to-define words that everybody thinks they understand. But what does it really mean?
These last few years, optimism has become a field of growing interest among experts, scientists and professionals. Authors like Professor Seligman and his 'relearned optimism' or the many studies proving the relationship between optimism and better health (like those by Julia Boehm and Laura Kubzansky, for example) indicate the level of interest there is for this topic. Many attempts have been made to clearly define this concept, but still different cultures and different fields of study explain it somehow differently, as culture also shapes the way in which the term is understood and interpreted.
Human beings are born optimists
When babies are born, they are always optimists. They expect the world to feed and care for them and for years wake up in the mornings believing that the new day will bring them happiness, adventure and fun. They face each moment like there is no other and enjoy it completely. A child plays and there's nothing else in the world but that game. The child will play the same game many times, and will not give up on it but persevere in the fun without questioning what comes next. Unless something deeply negative happens to alter that worldview, children remain deeply optimistic for quite a few of their first years, until their adults begin to chastise them for it and demand that they 'be more realistic,' or 'get their heads out of the clouds.'
Those same human beings then gradually start losing part of their optimism as life throws hurdles and problems at them and others recommend a less hopeful view on reality. They will start believing what others tell them and adapting their beliefs to their environment. Little by little, their natural optimism will dwindle and be replaced by a more somber worldview.
Lower levels of optimism result in poorer health and shorter life spans
Many of the studies carried out around the world have consistently proven that optimists live longer, happier and more rewarding lives. They've also been proven to be more resourceful and creative. There is an easy explanation to those results.
When pessimists face obstacles, they already believe that chances are they will fail, that things always go wrong, that they will not succeed. By the time they actually need to make the effort, they are so convinced of their failure that a) their effort is not absolute and b) they subconsciously sabotage themselves. As soon as they fail, then, they immediately tell themselves something like, 'see, I knew it was impossible.' That new failure thus reaffirms them once more.
Optimists, on the other hand, face obstacles believing that there always is a way to overcome them. They try to solve the situation one way. They might fail but that doesn't discourage them. They try another method and then another until they finally manage to overcome the problem and find a solution. They study their obstacles and ponder the different approaches to solving them. In their mind, there is no room for failure because they 'know' that they will succeed. Optimists never give up because they are convinced that there always is a way. By never giving up, then, optimists become more and more creative and start accumulating a great range of resources that make it easier to succeed at each attempt. That faith thus, results in them doing much more than pessimists and logically getting better results at the end.
All human beings are found somewhere between the two ends of this optimism-pessimism spectrum. Realism is just a way of describing those who are more in the middle of it. Realists, thus, have less resources than optimists but also fail less than pessimists.
Optimism is not thoughtlessness
Optimism, as just shown, is not just a matter of hope and expectations, but the conviction that good things will happen through a constant search for solutions. The true optimist is a hard-working, resourceful person who devotes a lot of energy and effort to reaching whatever goals are to be reached. A thoughtless person is not a true optimist because pursuing a goal without a plan barely ever leads to reaching it and optimists never give up. If one of the attempts to reach a goal is somehow thoughtless, it will likely fail, in which case the true optimist will think it over and formulate a new alternative, thus becoming the opposite of thoughtless. Thoughtlessness and optimism are therefore mutually exclusive in the longer run.
Optimism yields better results
As a result of the optimist's natural faith and hard-working habits, optimists become much better assets for companies and in general life. They push and drive, inspire and persevere. By not giving up, optimists become natural leaders and motivators.
Optimists rarely suffer from stress or burnout, either, as they don't worry but act. Stress and burnout stem from worry, from rumination and from fear, three attitudes that optimists naturally avoid by their own lookout on life. Consequently, optimists are less often sick or tense and end up developing a greater capacity to concentrate and focus on the task at hand.
Optimism can be recovered and relearned
As human beings grow up and live, society tries to instil a more sober view of life onto them as children and young people, thus slowly draining optimism from them. Without optimism, energy is low, motivation scarce and drive non-existent. That lack of optimism results in extreme personal and professional costs for families, companies and society as a whole. Fortunately, optimism can be relearned and developed. Like everything else in life, there isn't one formula-fits-all method for every human being. Optimism can be killed many different ways, and should therefore be reacquired by applying the right tools and methods, adapted to each person's needs and personal learning strategies.
Underlying subconscious beliefs can lead certain people to adopting a more pessimistic attitude in life. Fear is another trigger, as are pain, guilt or worry. A lot of professionals offer specific stress and burnout solutions to clients and patients but neglect to tackle the underlying problems that caused the original drain of energy and optimism. Only by solving and changing those will the human being truly recover that natural optimism that we are all born with.
If you wish to recover your drive, your motivation, your energy or if you want to help your team or your family to do the same, remember that each human being might have different reasons to feel the way they do and that specific tools and methods might be needed for each of them. Ask the professional you work with to present you with a detailed, personal plan for each person. If they fail to do that, look for a professional who does. Human beings are not robots and their complexity sometimes requires complex solutions. Those exist and can be used, believe me.

Retiring Early: Planning Out Your Exit Strategy

Are you happy with your current job? In general, US employees are satisfied with their work life. According to a 2016 Pew Research Center study, about half (49%) of American workers say they are very satisfied with their current job. Yet, 30% of them are somewhat satisfied, and the remainder says they are slightly dissatisfied (9%) or very dissatisfied (6%). When individuals are not happy at work, this mindset impacts other aspects of their lives.With that said, some people have careers that absorbed them and make them unhappy.

When I wrote my new book, Mapping Out Life After Retirement, I hope to assist prospective and current retirees on how to have a more fulfilled life. Effective planning is one of the essential ingredients. This article discusses how individuals can retire early with the right kind of strategy. In most cases, prospective retirees are working on without a meaningful plan for retirement and lack a good exit strategy from their current employment.

Retiring early is a difficult task in today's financial requirements for living. In 2016, I retired from my career of 27 years at the age of 50 years old. Waiting for me was my abbreviated pension and my ideal job (started the same month that I retired). To retire early is indeed a blessing from God. However, I had planned my exit strategy for several years.
Yet, millions of Boomers may not be physically and mentally ready for retirement savings today to retire. This reality is troubling after working long hours, taking care of families, putting children through school, and even caring for their senior parents. In the Insured Retirement Institute (IRI) survey, "Boomers Expectations for Retirement 2016, there are some startling statistics that will clarify some of the challenges for a Baby Boomer retirement:

  • The percentage of Baby Boomers who are satisfied with how their lives are going from an economic perspective has fallen to 43%, which is the lowest level since 2011.
  • Boomers are less confident than they were five years ago about almost every aspect of retirement.
  • Among the 55% of Boomers with retirement savings, 58% have saved $100,000 or more for retirement. When Boomers work with financial advisors, this increases to 78%.
  • Only one in four Boomers expect significant income from an employer-provided pension.
  • One in five Boomers are worried they will not have enough savings for necessary expenses.

As the statistics have shown you, there are many reasons why many Baby Boomers will not retire anytime soon due to the current economic conditions and their lack of serious planning. In this case, retiring early will take a different strategy to be successful. Thus, sitting down and mapping out a personal exit strategy for retirement is critical.

This situation means talking with wise advisors, family, and former co-workers who are retired. In many cases, most retirees are happy to discuss their experience with retiring, including their mistakes and pitfalls. Based on my own exit strategy I utilized in my retirement.

What To Do When a Death of a Loved One Occurs


Whether anticipated or not, the death of a loved one is a jolting and emotional experience for families and loved ones. The actual time of death can be an overwhelming experience for most people, making it a challenge to organize thoughts and figure out which steps to take directly following such news. Since this is a situation that not many of us experience often in our lives, it is normal for you to not have any knowledge on what to do if it were to ever occur in your family. Continue reading to learn what you should do at the time of death of a loved one.
The Actual Time of Death
The steps you take at the time of death of your loved one will depend on several factors, including when and where the death occurs, the circumstances of the passing, and much more. Here is a basic guide to follow if it happens to you and your family:
Immediately upon receiving news that your loved one has passed, your first step is to notify the proper authorities. This depends on where the death occurs. If the death occurs in the hospital or in hospice care, you will likely be informed by them, so this step would be moot. The staff or burse will discuss procedures for contacting a funeral director, including whether they or the family are responsible for doing so.
A Death at Home
If an anticipated death occurs at home, it is generally considered a home care or hospice case, which should be treated the same as a death that takes place in a hospital. However, if a sudden, unanticipated death occurs at home, the proper step to take is to call 911 and go through the proper emergency procedures. When the medical personnel arrives, they will use their professional judgement to decide the best course of action to take from there. They will even work with the funeral home to coordinate transfers.
Funeral Home
After you have communicated with either hospital staff or emergency medical personnel, it is necessary to contact a trusted or arranged funeral home. In order to make the process easier, be prepared to answer some important questions asked by the funeral director. This will help ease and expedite the transfer, receipt, and care of the deceased. Questions may regard the number of steps in the home to the deceased, whether or not family is waiting or wants to be involved in the removal, and more.
Notifications and Arrangements
Once the deceased is in the care of a funeral home, you can begin the process of notifying friends, family, coworkers, employers, place of residence, schools, churches, and more. At this time, you can also begin to make arrangements for your loved one's home and personal life (car, bank, mail, refrigerator, pets, possessions, etc.).
Once everyone is notified and arrangements are made for their possessions, you can begin to organize their funeral, memorial, wake, and/or cremation. Your funeral directors will guide you through the entire process, start to finish.

Chiropractors have successfully treated their patients for neck pain.

For over 100 years chiropractors have successfully treated their patients for neck pain. Neck pain can begin in many ways. Some people hurt their neck in an accident, like a fall or a whiplash. Others acquire neck discomfort from a prolonged posture such as doing desk work or sleeping awkwardly. There are those whose neck pain just starts for no apparent reason.

Neck pain can also be associated with diminished ability to turn the head right and left or look up and down. Many people will find that the muscles of the neck and upper back will tighten or go into spasm and restrict their normal mobility.
A painful neck is a common musculoskeletal complaint that has been found to be both costly and disabling. It is not uncommon for someone who has neck discomfort to be unable to turn their head fully when driving, not be able to exercise or perform cleaning of their house or do yard work. Some may actually have to call off work due to their discomfort.
This article will discuss how chiropractic care can help those suffering from neck pain and introduce the reader to a recent research study that validates how treatment from a chiropractor helps improve neck discomfort and mobility.
The research study found in The Journal of Musculoskeletal Science and Practice, October 2018 noted patients receiving cervical mobilization, a method chiropractors may use in treating neck discomfort, helped improve the patient's pain as well as improve the ability to more fully move the head and neck.